DISAPPOINTED BY YOUR LOVED ONES?

DISAPPOINTED BY YOUR LOVED ONES?

It's funny how people you LOVE hurt you intentionally and they still come back to tell you it was intentional. Most times they tell you that you pushed them into doing it cos you did something grievous and if you check mate your offence to their action you'll see that what they do to you is more grievous than what you did. The question now is how do you handle such situation?

Firstly, it will be good to note that the offended party did what he/she did out of annoyance, and this is as a result of com-mutated offences (which of course you might not be conscious of) which has been stored in their sub-consciousness (of course they love you and wouldn't want to keep the record of your offenses) in time past, now after hurting you intentionally, their conscience spring into action and condemned them. The very first thing that goes on in your mind is the disappointment you've found in them (considering the fact that they must have offended you too in time past, but you did not hold them responsible for it because you love them) and this in turn will make them lose some percentage of the respect you have for them (at least for that moment) and then anger comes in. WHY?

Because you will feel cheated, at this moment, you will want to regret those times you didn't hold them responsible for their wrong deeds towards you, you feel like a fool who can't voice out when hurt (trust me, these thoughts hurt).

One of the best shorts you have at this moment is to calm your nerves and express your feelings (but try not to hurt back with the word of your mouth when doing this, else you'll be worse than the other party), don't pretend like it's nothing when it hurts, let them know you're hurt, forgive and let it go, cos if you don't let it go, it will hurt more.

Focus on your love for them and close your eyes towards the hurting deeds.

But how will someone who has never felt the power of forgiveness forgive fellow human? You can't give what you don't have; he that cannot forgive himself cannot forgive others